Disobedient Children: What Can We Do In This Situation?
Are you worried about your child’s behavior? Disobedience can be corrected with proper communication and strategies. Educate him and achieve a good relationship between you.
Childhood is one of the happiest and most challenging times for parents (especially those with disobedient children). The stages, challenges and changes that they must face together are different; maintaining respect, trust and communication.
Now, in the case of disobedient children the complications can be even greater. Their attitudes are more delicate to handle and it takes more patience and disposition to be able to correct them effectively.
How are disobedient children?
To identify what a disobedient child is like, you must be attentive to his behavior. For example, if you start to ignore orders, you are most likely going through a phase in your life where you want to measure how far you can go to get what you want.
This point leads them to make decisions in which they only want to be contrary. Situation that occurs, in certain cases, when the child is raised in an authoritarian environment. He gets tired of following orders and begins to rise up through bad answers or tantrums in front of anyone who tells him something.
This irritates them easily and they end up increasing their disobedience in order to show themselves as a figure of power who also wants to be heard. But don’t worry too much; since rebellious children often have attitudes that allow them to identify if they are being spoiled.
Ignore orders
The breach of duties is clearly manifested in disobedient children. And it is that it seeks to exercise a small figure of power capable of breaking the rules to be followed.
In this line, that a child does not obey can be the consequence of multiple factors. Among them, an article published by the Cuban Journal of Comprehensive General Medicine highlights the following:
- Conflicts between parents.
- Sleep disorders.
- Divorce.
- Difficulties in social skills.
- Restlessness.
Likewise, it is also important to recognize who of the two disobeys the most ; since, sometimes, this is able to indicate why it does it.
Does not fulfill its duties
There is a possibility that, as a parent, you are being overly condescending. Perhaps with the intention of becoming his friend to generate greater trust between you, you make him lose respect for you and start not fulfilling his duties.
In this sense, he must see in you an authority figure whom he respects when the orders you give are for the better. No matter how good a relationship they have, try to get him to fulfill his duties at school and at home. Without neglecting, of course, the values that you instill and promote every day.
He lies to you
Lying is a common attitude in children. However, you must attack it in time because it can go from the smallest lie to the most serious. Which, in the long run, is capable of generating problems in the future.
At this point, it is relevant that you talk to him; since at that age traits are created in the child’s personality that will be maintained until their youth.
What to do to correct disobedient children?
As you have already seen, identifying the most common behaviors in a disobedient child is important to detect them early. Also, below we will give you some basic tips to correct disobedience in childhood. Take note!
Enroll you in sports or artistic activities
Sometimes a child has too much adrenaline and tension in his body due to the monotony of staying by the rules.
His way of manifesting this is by disobeying. Therefore, as research published in 2020 by Cambridge University Press showed , enrolling you in sports or artistic activities that attract your attention not only helps to release accumulated stress; it also creates habits and offers discipline.
Take away privileges when they disobey you
Taking away privileges when he behaves like a disobedient child will help you correct his inappropriate behaviors. Depriving him of things that he likes or entertains him can be effective in improving his behavior.
However, a study developed in 2020 by the Federico Villarreal National University advises that you do not punish him without explanation. Talk to him and make him understand that each act has its consequences so that he thinks things through before doing them.
Communicate how their disobedience makes you feel
Scolding goes beyond punishing the child or forbidding him to do something he likes. It is telling him how his attitude makes you feel and explaining how it hurts him not to obey at every stage of his life.
Likewise, it is necessary to differentiate between obedience-submission. And teach him that following the rules is important to maintaining good personal, family and social relationships.
Letting him know that his behavior affects you and worries you produces a greater family bond. In this way, the child understands on his own that his attitudes affect a loved one and, automatically, he represses them out of protective instinct.
Practice patience if you have disobedient children
Disobedient children are more common than you think, so don’t be alarmed. In addition, it is not difficult to correct this problem: by following some tips, getting to know your child every day, listening to him and talking to him, you will be able to solve disobedience and any other inconvenience that comes your way.
As a parent, in these situations you must remain calm and not take action on impulse. Although disobedience by children is often frustrating, it is best to face these types of problems with good communication and favorable strategies for both.
